Vietnam War Memorial: Traveling Wall Offers Sobering Images and Lessons

by Kathleen Merryman

Angling out of the earth in the National Mall in Washington, it makes no statement on the rightness or wrongness of the path the nation took through the Vietnam War. It simply lists the names of the 58,195 men and women who laid their bones down on that path.

The statement on The Wall’s Web site underlines that point: The Vietnam Veterans Memorial is a place where everyone, regardless of opinion, can come together and remember and honor those who served.

Because so many people can’t or don’t get to the National Mall, veterans groups have found a way to bring The Wall to them. The American Veterans Traveling Tribute, made of aluminum and four-fifths the size of the granite original, travels by trailer from one host venue to another.

“Can I help you find a name? Stephen Rutherford asks. Would you like to make a rubbing of a name? Rutherford and the other veterans who brought it are volunteering to welcome them.

His wife, Mary Rutherford, and their daughter, Senior Airman Miki Rutherford, on leave from Nellis AFB, Nev., work in the tent filled with paintings and prints young men rising up from scarred ground on golden wings. Patrols, wading single-file through beautiful, deadly rice paddies.

On opening day, Logan Kesler, 13, skipped Mount Baker Middle School, and Jesse McIntyre, 15, did not go to Emerald Ridge High School. Instead, they set up tables and ran errands. Jesse had a stake in the event. He had played his guitar in front of Puyallup’s Top Foods and raised $450 to help bring the smaller Wall to Auburn.

I’m just doing what I can to get the veterans recognized, he said.

His father, veteran Jeff McIntyre, had spent the previous night at the site and welcomed homeless veterans when they stopped by to see it.

The expanse of names awes him.

You look at one name, and that one person had a mother and a father, aunts, uncles, maybe kids, he said. For every name there, there are probably 50 people who loved that person. If you add it up, it’s unbelievable. All the sacrifices. Don’t forget them. Don’t ever forget them.

What we take from the Wall should go beyond not forgetting. It should include learning.

On some fronts, we have.

Once again, we are engaged in a war on which public opinion is deeply divided.

Today, at least, we are more civil to our returning troops.

Rick Bulman remembered flying in to Travis Air Force Base, being shuttled to San Francisco International Airport, then hitch-hiking home. No ceremony. No military welcome.

Returns now are marked by solemn, joyful ceremonies. On Fort Lewis and McChord Air Force Base, the military formally thanks the returning men and women. It invites their families to join them. That’s the way it should be.

Ordinary residents, too, have learned from hurtful behavior that has backfired through history.

When I left and was in the airport, people spat at me and yelled Baby killer,’ Jeff McIntyre recalled.

Those were isolated incidents in the larger protest movement, but they have come to symbolize it.

Demonstrations against the war in Iraq focus on policy and on bringing the troops home safe and well.

Already, McIntyre said, veterans are planning a memorial for those killed in Iraq. At least 2,000 more names to be mourned and honored.

Resources

• Employment Resources for Veterans:  There are many federal jobs that give preference to hiring retired military members. This site provides information on what these positions are, as well as resources for job training.
• Financial Resources for American Veterans: This resource from Mint.com offers helpful ideas for finding support for a variety of circumstances that may be keeping you from accomplishing your financial goals.
• How Service and Therapy Dogs are Helping PTSD Victims: This guide discusses the many benefits that specially-trained PTSD service dogs provide to their two-legged companions, as well as resources for finding one of your own.
• The Gary Sinise Foundation: The distinguished actor has added “advocate to veterans everywhere” to his resume by building homes and providing home modifications to disabled war veterans – services which are free of charge.
• The National Center on Homelessness Among Veterans (NCHAV): This division of the VA works to provide care and compassion for veterans who are homeless or at-risk for homelessness.
• A Guide to Cremation and Burial for Veterans: Pre-Planning, Financial Benefits, and Everything You Need to Know for Making Proper Final Arrangements: This research-based guide provides a wealth of information to veterans and their loved ones on making affordable and honorable final arrangements.
• Addiction and Suicide Amongst Veterans: Finding Hope In The Darkness: Guide with Information on Substance Abuse Among Veterans
• The Guide to Helping Children Cope with Separation from a Deployed Parent
• 15 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Strong During Deployment
• What You Need to Know About Reintegration
• When Vets Come Home: 5 Things You Should Say (and 5 Things You Shouldn’t)
• How Service and Therapy Dogs are Helping PTSD Victims
• Surviving PTSD: Helping Your Military Loved Ones Get the Help They Need
• College Admission Tips for Military Veterans
• Addiction and Suicide Amongst Veterans: Finding Hope in the Darkness
• Veterans Crisis Line – Call, Text, or Chat
• Female Veterans and Drug Addiction: 15 Ways to Support their Ongoing Battle
• Coming Home From Deployment: The New “Normal”
• The Veteran’s Complete Guide to Relocation
• Surviving PTSD: Helping Your Military Loved Ones Get the Help They Need
• How and When to Hang the American Flag
• Depression and Military Families
• How Dogs Can Help with Mental Health – Mind Boosting Benefits of Dog Ownership
• How To Camp With Your Dog