Falling in love is literally falling through a rabbit hole to another state of consciousness ~ a state of light and soul consciousness deepest within ourselves which we initially attempt to externalize and eventually must painfully internalize in order to assume our place in a universal loving plan in action:
Falling in love is the first step toward experiencing the divine light and a state of love, joy and soul consciousness deepest within ourselves and no one describes the feeling more vividly than the famous Persian poet, Rumi ~
“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky,
to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment.
First to let go of life.
Finally, to take a step without feet.”
But Rumi also apparently sensed that love was a force beyond time and space and its roots were in the unseen world of soul consciousness and, I would add, the Unified Field ~ a state of consciousness that exists not only beyond time and space but also deepest within ourselves and whose principal property is the propensity to unite.
“Everything you see has its roots in the unseen world.
The forms may change, yet the essence remains the same.
Every wonderful sight will vanish, every sweet word will fade,
But do not be disheartened,
The source they come from is eternal, growing,
Branching out, giving new life and new joy.
Why do you weep?
The source is within you
And this whole world is springing up from it.”
Without a doubt, the most important initial step in my journey to experience and know this same truth was falling in love ~ for indeed I fell through a rabbit hole to a whole new dimension of feeling, seeing and knowing.
Of course, I initially externalized that love and when that idealized love was shattered by the reality of my marital situation ~ I could either run away from the resultant deep psychic pain or do what I actually did ~ accept, connect and surrender to the pain realizing that I would be haunted forever by the heights of that joy unless I faced and sank into the uncharted waters of the psychic well of grief I was then encountering. David Whyte expressed it perfectly in his poem The Well of Grief ~
“Those who will not slip beneath
the still surface on the well of grief
turning downward through its black water
to the place we cannot breathe
will never know the source from which we drink,
the secret water, cold and clear,
nor find in the darkness glimmering
the small round coins
thrown by those who wished for something else.”
Some part of me sensed that there was a sad and alone child within me who always wanted to feel that deeply and I could not go any further until I also embraced his deep pain as I had once fully embraced his incredible joy.
I had surrendered to his delight and now it was time to surrender to his pain ~ trusting that beneath that well of grief was not only joy but also my true authentic self and my heart centered destiny.
From that deep and egoless state of apparent death and aloneness ~ I fully surrendered and embraced my true self and very rapidly my dreams became my guide to this new world of light and soul consciousness, that existed beyond time and space, as well as the startling realization that I was beginning to see through different eyes ~
I dreamed I was going to write a book entitled CONSCIOUS LOVE, THE ULTIMATE ENERGY ~ which three years later in 1975 became my Master’s Thesis and the last 38 years have been spent proving it in my heart centered work as a therapist which culminated in my PHD dissertation on the Unified Field in 1998 and then the publishing of it in the form of my latest book in 2000 ~ RADICAL THERAPY / Surrender to Love and Heal Yourself in Seven Sessions ( Not Seven Years ).
This book is read by all my clients as well as the more than 65 combat vets with PTSD in the eleven Healing The Wounded Heart workshops I have facilitated over the past three years. Surrendering to love is also why my clients begin healing themselves in only seven sessions and why there has been an average 55 to 60% improvement in all symptoms of PTSD in my Band of Brothers 8 week PTSD groups ~ particularly feelings of Inner Peace, joy, love and gratefulness.
Despite the obvious success of a heart centered approach to working with combat veterans with PTSD, along with the rising rate of veterans suicide (now 22 a day) ~ it’s politics as usual for the VA who still refuse to sanction a heart centered approach to Combat Vet care and remain in the structured box of drug and symptom oriented programs while its top General calls for alternative approaches. See post
I am now quite conscious of the fact that I am seeing through the heart while doing my heart centered work and living in a Unified Field of love, light, joy and soul consciousness ~ the same field that Rumi so eloquently wrote of;
“Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase each other
doesn’t make any sense.”
Combat veterans of all ages, seniors and youth all want to be seen through the heart and they all respond when we share our truth and speak from our heart . As an example, here’s a short email note from a member of the Orange county Life after Life club, where I made a two hour presentation on my heart centered work this past Saturday.
Our souls saw each other yesterday. I knew I knew you. I needed to be there and I needed to be in the front row. I am frequently invisible, but you saw me. I had waves of heart energy during your presentation, and when you quoted William Blake my heart gave a leap! His words became clearer. I am returning to the light and BECOMING my true self, excavating, tunneling out from underneath the pain and artifice, the defensive armor in which to hide.
I am listening to Caroline Myss and Andrew Harvey, “Divine Rebels, Saints, Mystics, Holy Change Agents-and You”. Your work enmeshes with theirs and sparked a deeper understanding.
I am beginning to see the strands of evolution in me, the healing from psychic despair that will ripple out from me to help heal the WEB of the ALL. This is my preparation time, for what, I do not know, but I do know I am gathering strength and courage to say YES when it presents.
I too, have felt that this is my last go round on this plane. I have no idea how or why I know this, but the KNOWING is very strong and I am becoming Brave enough to BELIEVE that I am worthy enough to know this.
Thank you for saying “YES”. Thank you for the courage to present your truth. You have unlocked the treasure chest and my soul is in joy.
In deep gratitude for your Divine Light,
So falling through the rabbit hole of love led eventually not only to my true self and a state of love, light, joy and soul consciousness deepest within me but also to a place of service and the deep realization that I am part of a loving plan in action ~ an evolutionary process with which we all participate as co-creators, if we will but listen, respond and share our truth regardless of the risks.
About the Author: Allen L Roland is a Freelance Alternative Press Online columnist. He is also a practicing psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his web site at AllenRoland.com. He also guest hosts a Truthtalk, a national radio show that airs monthly. He is available for comments, interviews, speaking engagements and private consultations via email at [email protected].