Only love truly heals because only love lies deepest within us. The basic underlying and uniting force of the universe is a psychic energy field of love and soul consciousness (Unified Field ) which lies not only beyond time and space but also beneath our deepest fears ~ and whose principle property is the urge to unite:
The only right love is that between couples whose passion leads them both, one through the other, to a higher possession of their being: Teilhard de Chardin
For almost 40 years I have been demonstrating that there is no true healing without love and that the very act of surrendering to love is the ultimate key to inner transformation.
You don’t need to see a therapist to understand this phenomenon, you don’t need to attend a workshop to see this magic in action ~ all you need to do is see and understand your life as a quest, versus a struggle, to realize that not only are we all loved but that we are all part of a loving plan in action and gratefulness is the key to this magic kingdom ~ God only reveals itself to a grateful heart.
In my work as a heart centered transformation counselor, I rapidly point out the people who have loved you in your life (grandparents, parents, siblings and others) on a life chart and ask you a simple question ~ have you thanked them?
In my experience, most people have only thanked about 10 to 20% of the people who have truly touched and loved them in their lives ~ usually because of issues of unworthiness as well as shame based guilt.
Their homework is to start thanking them and telling them why they were a gift in their lives. For active duty veterans, this can include their buddies and comrades, for veterans form life time loving bonds with the people they have faced life threatening situations with.
Once they start thanking people, their hearts begin to open and they start seeing through different eyes ~ eyes unclouded with unworthiness, shame and guilt.
As a transformation counselor, my job as their coach, is to help them go through their fears by using gratefulness as their heart centered tool of choice. Once they have thanked these people, they share their life chart with those people closest to them in the same spirit of gratefulness and now joy.
It would appear that the pain of not feeling loved for oneself and being seemingly separated from our original state of soul consciousness and the Unified Field is of such deep psychic proportions that, early in childhood, processes are triggered in the hypothalamus which result in a left brain imbalance and dominance as well as the denial, mistrust and forgetting of our connection to the Unified Field and the love and joy and a state of soul consciousness deepest within us. It is from this dark tunnel of pain, aloneness, despair and apparent death that the ego and ego consciousness is born – for survival and protection purposes only.
As such, death or the idea of death, is an illusion measured by the limits of our consciousness. Think of the ego as a protective cocoon that is eventually meant to be shed.
The Unified Field can be visualized as a grid of great luminosity joining all living beings within its energy field of love. The words of Longfellow would seem appropriate in describing this all-encompassing field or grid: “The thread of all sustaining beauty that runs through all and doth all unite.”
This is why most people are not afraid of their pain, most people are living in pain ~ what most people are afraid of is their deeper joy because they feel it will eventually be taken away ~ as it seemingly was as a child or in relationship.
Once my clients sense that beneath their deepest pain and fear is joy, intention and purpose ~ their ego is no longer needed for protection and begins to slowly unravel as celebration and service become more important for survival.
The 8 steps of ego death are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance and Connection, Surrender, Celebration and Service.
Quite simply, I meet and touch them, as their coach, at the celebration and service stage and rapidly help them accept and connect their pain (through the life chart) and eventually lead them to surrender, celebration and service ~ always using gratefulness as well as forgiveness, as my primary tools.
It happens very rapidly because they sense the truth that I know and they are, in essence, healing themselves
I have personally proved that a Unified Field of love, joy and soul consciousness exists beneath our deepest pain and fears and I have guided hundreds including combat veterans, who were taught to kill, to this same place of gratitude, self-forgiveness, joy and love deepest within themselves. See article
Only love truly heals because only Love connects us to what is deepest within ourselves and we, in essence, begin the process of healing ourselves.
If there were no real propensity to unite, even at a prodigiously rudimentary level, indeed, in the molecule itself, it would be impossible for love to appear higher up in the human form: Teilhard de Chardin
About the Author: Allen L Roland is a Freelance Alternative Press Online columnist. He is also a practicing psychotherapist, author and lecturer who also shares a daily political and social commentary on his web site at AllenRoland.com. He also guest hosts a Truthtalk, a national radio show that airs monthly. He is available for comments, interviews, speaking engagements and private consultations via email at [email protected].